A friend once shared a story about an injury that left him walking with a limp. Long after the pain was gone, he realized he was still limping—protecting himself from something that no longer existed. It was a lightbulb moment for him. He decided to change. 

It got me thinking: where in life are you still limping? 

• Emotionally: Avoiding tough conversations or holding back from love, connection, or adventure because fear of rejection feels safer than risking vulnerability. 
  
  
• Mentally: Trapped in self-doubt, overthinking every decision, or replaying the same old stories about why you can’t have or don’t deserve more. 
  
  
• Physically: Ignoring your body’s signals—pushing through exhaustion, aches, or stress—because it feels easier than pausing to face what might need to change. 
  
  
• Financially: Not asking for the promotion you’ve earned or hesitating to take charge of your finances, even when the opportunities for growth are right in front of you. 
  
  
• At Home: Silently carrying the ...

We’ve talked about goals. We’ve talked about systems. Now it’s time to stop talking and start doing. 

If you’ve ever set a goal—lose weight, get fit, earn more money, fix your health—and felt the sting of coming up short, you already know this: goal setting isn’t goal attainment. 

If you’ve been missing the mark on achieving personal goals, over and over and over again, it’s you don’t have the tools, structure, or systems to make it happen. 

Trying harder, doing more, pushing harder, hustling longer—it's what we do, but that’s not the answer and even if you have success, chances are you’ll have sacrificed something important along the way – health, relationships, friendships, life enjoyment? 

Women’s Personal Health Leadership™ (WPHL) is how you redefine success through health-led life leadership. 

Women in their 40s are realizing they’ve painted themselves into a corner in one way or another—and they don’t know how to get out. If you’re one of them, WPHL shows y...

What do you want?  

Do you want:  

A new job?  

To work for yourself? 

Get out of the house more? 

Be at home more?  

Renovate your home (or life)? 

To be in love? 

To be married? 

To be single? 

More money?  

More freedom?  

To travel?  

To relocate?  

More friends?  

More fun?  

Some satisfaction in your life?  

Less challenges?  

Do you want to be the boss?  

Do you want to retire?  

Do you a baby (another baby?)  

Play sport? 

Learn a language?  

What is it that you actually want?  

And more importantly, what is it that you don’t want!?! 

I have always been driven, I just didn’t always know where I was driving myself too!  

NO CLUE!  

When I was younger, I was driven, unfortunately I didn’t know what I was driven for! My dreams weren’t exactly ground-breaking. They were just the same things we all want, in a nutshell, a better life.   

But here’s my frustration I had then: I’d set so many goals—some of them the same ones, over ...

Can we have an honest moment? I used to think that if I just tried hard enough, I’d crack the code. That if I read the right books, tried the right diet, or finally nailed the perfect plan, I’d figure it out. 

And for a while, that worked. Kind of. I mean, I was busy—I had lists, journals, and ideas coming out of my ears. I was trying things, learning, tweaking, but nothing really changed. I was still stuck in the same cycles, the same frustrations, the same place. 

I told myself I just needed to try harder. But honestly? It wasn’t about effort—it was about perspective. 

The Problem with Doing It All Yourself 

When you’re the one holding all the pieces, it’s easy to get lost in the mess. I didn’t realize how much time I was wasting trying to connect dots that weren’t meant to connect. I was trying harder, but I wasn’t moving forward. 

I remember thinking, “Why does this feel impossible?” The truth? It wasn’t impossible—I just didn’t have the right tools. 

The...

Have you ever had one of those moments where you realize you’ve been looking the other way? I don’t mean physically—I mean when something in your life has been staring you down, but you’ve managed to sidestep it, just enough to get by. 

I’ve been there. When I was 20kg heavier, I became an expert at looking away. I’d only glance at mirrors from flattering angles, had a set of “safe” clothes that fit no matter what, and avoided cameras like the plague. It worked, mostly. Until it didn’t. 

The truth would creep up on me at the worst times. A photo I didn’t approve. A social event that couldn’t be avoided. The tight waistband of something I hadn’t worn in months. It wasn’t just the weight—I felt like my life was shrinking in other ways, too. My world shrank. I stopped saying yes to things. I stayed home, ate my feelings, and told myself it was easier this way. 

But here’s the thing: even in the mess of it all, I never completely gave up hope. I didn’t know it at the time, b...

 I wanted to check in again—last time, we talked about making those 1-degree shifts and setting a powerful course for 2025.  

I know that small changes, made intentionally, can shape the life we want. So often, we feel the weight of balancing work, family, friendships, and self-care, wondering if there’s a way to truly have it all.  

The good news? You don’t need sweeping changes or life overhauls.  

With the right support, it’s about making those subtle, meaningful adjustments—one small step at a time. 

As we close out the year, it’s also a natural time to pause and reflect. What did you set out to achieve this year? How close have you come to those goals? And even if you’ve met them, are you feeling the satisfaction you hoped for? 

Often, even when we achieve what we set out to, the fulfillment doesn’t always follow. 

We find ourselves looking back and seeing all the sacrifices we made to get there—sleep, health, friendships, even love.  

It’s easy to p...

Last week, I shared the long journey it’s taken to create Women’s Personal Health Leadership™ and invited you to join as a Founding Member. It’s been a big step, sharing this vision that I’ve held close for so long. 

As I sat with my coffee again this morning, I found myself reflecting on the kinds of sacrifices we all make—sacrifices we often don’t notice in the day-to-day, but that add up over time.  

I was listening to a conversation between Simon Sinek and Trevor Noah, where they discussed how friendships can quietly slip away as we pour ourselves into work and family.  

It's not just friendships though; we often lose sight of our health, personal growth and our finances as they all take a back seat while we focus in on just one or two areas of life.  

Many women, even in high-powered careers, still leave financial decisions to their partners, often out of habit or a lack of time.  

Then, when life takes an unexpected turn, like the loss of a partner or a cha...

This morning, as I sipped my coffee and watched the sunrise, I found myself reflecting on a journey that has been both the most challenging and rewarding experience of my life. I want to share a personal story with you—one that I hope resonates and perhaps even inspires you on your own path. 

You’ve been following me a long time and you know my story by now, how I spent over $100,000 over 25 years battling chronic health issues and weight, all of which defied my every attempt to correct.  

But really that was just chapter 1 of the story!  

This week, I’ve been so very excited to finally share with you what I’ve been working on over the last six months but really, it’s what I’ve been working towards since 2012! 

I had the idea to begin this in 2012, and started creating my first website and writing blogs in 2015, then launched Dietless Living® in Aug 2017. 

Since then, I’ve: 

• Developed 3 Systems of Health Consciousness™ model, Freedom Codes™, Personal Health Le...

For years, I’ve struggled with a behaviour that still has the potential to blindside me, leaving me reeling as I deal with the inevitable fallout.  

Despite all the work and therapy, I’ve done over the past 25 years, this behaviour feels like an indelible stain on my nervous system.

Even in moments when I should feel safe and supported, it can still pop up like a jack-in-the-box, impacting my relationships and sense of self.

Having looked after many rescue dogs in the past, my behaviour often reminds me of theirs—animals, despite living in a loving home, can still react with fear when triggered, causing them to bite those they love. I know I’m not alone in feeling this way.

Even though I’ve made tremendous progress, I feel like a failure and a fraud when this behavior reappears.

Here I am espousing Personal Health Leadership™, yet struggling to lead myself in these moments. However, I’ve come to understand that these ingrained responses aren’t signs that I’m flawed;...

I love the middle of the year. 

June and Dec are Reality Check time for me to see if my daily habits and behaviours are in alignment with the ambitions I've set for myself. 

DATA QUEEN 

For as long as I can remember I've been the kinda gal who loves to collect data. 

I've changed many things in my life and I've always collected some kind of data about the changes I was making. 

Unfortunately, I was tracking my results rather than my behaviours. 

BEHAVIOURS PRODUCE THE RESULTS 

Tracking results is a poor yardstick for creating change as it only shows success or failure. 

Results are either in favour or not in favour of a desired outcome. 

The easiest example I can give you is from my 25 years on the yo-yo dieting hamster wheel. 

I used to track my weight and measurements as well as keep food and exercise diaries. 

Weight and measurements were the result of how well I was doing on a diet, while my food and exercise diaries only showed the re...