"We just become so fearful of things, we live in a state of survival and the more we want to control our environment which leads to tension."

"It was the LIVING LIFE that allowed me to lose 20 kilos..."

Here is just one of the many advice I give my client.

Q. Which goals are easiest to achieve?

A. Ones that are just an extension of who you are or what you do already.

Q. Which goals are the hardest to achieve?

A. Ones that require you to become a different version of yourself, goals that require you to change your daily habits and do things differently.

Q. Why is it harder to achieve goals that require you to change your habits?

A. Because habits are thoughts, feelings, reactions and behaviours that you’ve cultivated over many years and wired into your unconscious mind, and now those habits run on auto pilot. This means, you don’t do your habits, they do you!

Q. Why does traditional goal setting let you down when it’s a goal that requires you to change your habits?

A. Because it’s focused on the result, not the process.

Q. What kind of goals do you traditionally set when you need to lose weight?

A. Results focused goals – a number on the scale or clothes tag “I want to weight X/Be a size X”

Q. What kind...

When we reach that point where we can’t stand our weight any longer and we take action to lose weight we make a very big mistake.

Because we've just reached the end of our tether, there’s an element of panic, and in our panic, the resounding thought in our head is "Get it off me, now!"

We just want the fat to go and we want it to go fast!

So we dive in, boots and all, a calorie-restrictive diet coupled with intensive exercising.

We try to go from 0 – 100 and we change everything and do too much, too quickly.

The problem is, on top of your already busy schedule, working 50, 60, 70, hours a week, under time pressures, deadlines, staff issues, conflict, and burning the midnight oil at home, along with your already depleted energy reserves, very low fitness levels and stress-related aches and pains, this is a recipe for disaster.

Why?

Your mind and body is already living in a state of survival all day every day because, among many things, you’ve already tapped your...

If you're alone through the festive season:

Think about how you can turn that time to your advantage; it's a good time to do something you’ve been putting off all year. Perspective is everything, it might just be the ideal time to start that money making project you’ve been thinking about?

But if you do want more social time and people in your life:

Look through your address book and start phoning people, make coffee dates, have conversations, be confident to let them know you’d like to hang out this Christmas or find somewhere to volunteer and get your happy feelings giving someone else  a happy Christmas.

Laughter really is the best medicine:

Get quick laughter fixes on You Tube or watch funny, light movies. Leave all the heavy, depressing drama and horror on the shelf.

Beat the festive season blues with happy tunes to dance to.

Be adventurous:

Go out and have some fun somewhere and do one thing you’ve always wanted to do, especially if it’s something...

“A happy life is just a string of happy moments. But most people don’t allow the happy moments, because they’re so busy trying to get a happy life.” — Abraham Hicks.

When was the last time you took a break from life's hassle and just simply enjoyed the life that you currently live?

You probably can't remember when because you're way too busy trying to do things that you think will get you to a happy life?

But you see, happiness is not a goal.

Happiness is an experience you can have now, regardless of your goals, your situation or experience.

This is exactly the reason why most people have lost their ability to be happy, because they set happiness as their goal, rather than a mode of travel to get to their goal.

You can't set happiness as your goal because it's not something that you "can go out and achieve".

Happiness is free for everyone. and you can be happy anytime you want. But happiness is also a skill that you have to learn.

The number 1 thing to do to...

Do you give your energy away to other people?

Reclaim your energy and make yourself your priority.

Have you ever found yourself in a situation, and wondered ''how the heck did I get here?''

I know I have…..many, many, maaaany times, especially with my weight! And I was always left wondering how did I allow it to happen?
 
Then I learned the theory of how to boil a frog and it changed my life.
 
To boil a frog: put him in a pot of room temperature water and then very very slowly keep adjusting the heat and the frog will make adjustment after adjustment after adjustment in its body temperature until eventually it accidentally allows itself to be boiled.
 
When you gain weight, you do the same thing, you make adjustment after adjustment after adjustment:

You start wearing the clothes that are a bit looser
You let your belt out a notch
You go shopping and buy new clothes but they are the next size up
You stop getting on the scales because you don't like what they say
You stop looking at yourself naked in the mirror or you make sure it's at the most flattering angle...

40% of all premature deaths are caused by habits that could be changed.
 
So that’s not genetics, not environment, not unexpected circumstance or outside influences, but things you’re doing, that if you didn’t do them, could save your life.
 
But changing habits is hard though, isn’t it?
 
No. Not if you have the right process to follow and the right guidance and coaching to show you what is happening behind the scenes of you so that you can take charge of you.
 
Because we actually feel powerless and ashamed that we can’t control ourselves, I know that’s how I used to feel. I was always so ashamed when the weight would pile back on and I would have to endure the mixture of looks from the people who knew me, everything from pity to disgust. There were people who felt it was ok to say unkind things to me about my “lack of will power”.
 
I never understood why, after all the work that I put into understanding human...